I fight. You?

When it suddenly surges through your body, when your alarm bells go off; when it suddenly feels too painful.

But when you don’t want to feel that... What do you do then?

I fight. I’ve actually become really good at it; explaining, clarifying, pointing fingers, and even claiming it.

No solution - to avoid having to feel what I am feeling right now - is foreign to me.

Why do I do that? Because what I feel seems too painful to bear.

Of course, I know I’m safe right now, but that’s not what my body is telling me.

This fighting demands a lot. Every time I focus on the other person, I abandon myself.

All my energy goes outwards while something is being asked from within;

Stay. Feel. Sit out the fire. Let the wave wash over me. Thinking I’m dying but yet stay.

Dying a thousand deaths... and right in the middle of it all... feeling so supported. So naked, so vulnerable, and so powerful and strong. Light. Alive!

Not because I have done, fixed, healed, or solved anything, but precisely because I have done nothing.

And thereby life gets its space again.

Where else should you be but here?

And yes, even when you have been coaching for more than 20 years, you’re still regularly on fire. Let’s not kid ourselves about an end goal where we are merely happy - how boring - but let’s meet each other in the human and magical chaos of life. DM me if you want to be able to stay where you are.